The Master had this story to tell about the way people look at other people.
Soon after his marriage he lived for a while on the tenth floor of a city apartment. His young wife one day stepped out of the shower to reach for a towel when she froze. There outside the window was a window washer looking at her. A whole minute passed as she stood there rooted to the ground, too stunned to move a muscle.
The man broke the spell. “What’s the matter, lady?” he said. “Haven’t you seen a window washer before?”
– Anthony de Mello, More One Minute Nonsense